1. Parents and Elders play a vital role in nurturing values in the children
a. The behaviour of parents creates a very strong impression on the minds of children. Hence, if the intention is to raise a child with strong moral and intellectual values, parents will need to be very vigilant of their own behaviour.
b. If the child is upset for some reason, be very affectionate with him while making sure that his self-respect is not hurt.
c. If the child wakes up crying, the entire day is likely to be ruined. So, make sure to be patient with him in the morning.
d. Do not point your child’s mistakes in presence of his friends. Discuss the issue privately and help him understand with patience.
e. Even if the child resists going to school, keep patience. If you lose your patience, you will breed hatred in the child.
f. Ensure that the child is happy while going to bed. Read him/ her an interesting book or tell him/ her funny stories/ jokes.
g. Parents should never fight or show disagreements in presence of the child. Parents who fight this way will quickly lose respect of their children.
h. In order to nurture the value of kindness to other living beings, teach kids to feed animals and donate generously to the poor and needy people.
i. There is a difference between being stingy or tightfisted and frugal or money-wise. Stingy parents will never be able to keep their children happy. Know the difference between needs and wants. Spend money for the “needs” of children. Be careful while spending for the “wants”.
j. While going on picnic or safari, let the children have the freedom to connect with nature. Let them play and run around without much restraint. Unnecessary restraints will hinder their growth. Remember, “A child is a father of a man”. These children will tomorrow be your support.
k. Deep down, parents have an earnest desire that their children would take care of them like “Shravan” did for his parents. However, have they been “Shravan” to their parents? How much and how well have they taken care of their parents? They should remember the age old saying, “As you sow, so shall you reap”.
Sunday, March 14, 2010
Special Skills and Values for Girls
a. Know to apply Mehndi (Henna) and decorate the house. Learn to apply “rangoli” at the door step.
b. Learn to mop the floor with appropriate rag cloth.
c. Know essentials of cleanliness. Should be able to do dusting around the house.
d. Be independent in maintaining her hair quality.
e. Use money wisely and safely.
f. Wear appropriate clothing. Avoid showing off the body or it’s parts. Sit and stand with dignity.
g. Be able to make chapatti, vegetable, Daal, buttermilk, sweet dishes etc.
h. Be able to cook an entire evening meal independently.
i. Be able to clean utensils. Know what kind of care needs to be exercised with aluminum, stainless steel and glass utensils.
j. Learn to offer food to others during meals- how much food is available, who needs what in their plate, how to give them without spilling, how to avoid wastage of food etc.
k. Help elders in organizing the kitchen.
l. Know to put left over food to good use by feeding it to dogs, cows or beggars.
m. Know basic stitching of clothes (repair minor tears, put buttons etc).
b. Learn to mop the floor with appropriate rag cloth.
c. Know essentials of cleanliness. Should be able to do dusting around the house.
d. Be independent in maintaining her hair quality.
e. Use money wisely and safely.
f. Wear appropriate clothing. Avoid showing off the body or it’s parts. Sit and stand with dignity.
g. Be able to make chapatti, vegetable, Daal, buttermilk, sweet dishes etc.
h. Be able to cook an entire evening meal independently.
i. Be able to clean utensils. Know what kind of care needs to be exercised with aluminum, stainless steel and glass utensils.
j. Learn to offer food to others during meals- how much food is available, who needs what in their plate, how to give them without spilling, how to avoid wastage of food etc.
k. Help elders in organizing the kitchen.
l. Know to put left over food to good use by feeding it to dogs, cows or beggars.
m. Know basic stitching of clothes (repair minor tears, put buttons etc).
Skills and Values of an 18 yr. old
a. Know the type and quality of clothes
b. Be able to do basic machine repair work at home. Seek help of friends when needed.
c. Take care of guests in absence of adults at home.
d. Be responsible to pay bills of the telephone and electricity at home.
e. Be frugal in shopping for oneself. Learn to minimize needs. Remember not to have expenses more than the income of the household.
f. Minimize going to hotels, parties, movies etc.
g. Does not dance on public roads.
h. For short distances, learn to commute on feet. Avoid using 2-wheelers for it.
i. Know to travel by City Bus, train or other public transportation independently.
j. Be friends only with respectful, honest and cultured individuals.
k. Do not be a blind, thoughtless follower in this modern age.
l. Develop the values of honesty, integrity and good behaviour.
m. Do at least one new project during each vacation period. Take guidance from elders if and when necessary.
n. Do a new project every Sunday and complete it independently.
o. Make a list of all the things in the house on a computer.
p. Keep a pocket diary and pen to jot down important matters.
q. Keep a list of important telephone numbers at all times.
r. Be responsible to maintain the telephone diary of the household.
s. Prepare a photo album of all the family members of the house. Write brief notes behind each photograph.
t. Maintain the library of the house by properly naming and numbering the books.
u. If someone borrows an important item from the house, make a written note of it and erase the note once the item is returned.
v. Habitually attend public speaking and other personality development courses.
w. Take a CD player or Cassette player on family trips. Make sure to have a good collection of music, stories, jokes, general knowledge and interesting as well as inspiring lectures. Also, carry along books or novels that have strong positive message. This will make learning fun and personality development easy.
b. Be able to do basic machine repair work at home. Seek help of friends when needed.
c. Take care of guests in absence of adults at home.
d. Be responsible to pay bills of the telephone and electricity at home.
e. Be frugal in shopping for oneself. Learn to minimize needs. Remember not to have expenses more than the income of the household.
f. Minimize going to hotels, parties, movies etc.
g. Does not dance on public roads.
h. For short distances, learn to commute on feet. Avoid using 2-wheelers for it.
i. Know to travel by City Bus, train or other public transportation independently.
j. Be friends only with respectful, honest and cultured individuals.
k. Do not be a blind, thoughtless follower in this modern age.
l. Develop the values of honesty, integrity and good behaviour.
m. Do at least one new project during each vacation period. Take guidance from elders if and when necessary.
n. Do a new project every Sunday and complete it independently.
o. Make a list of all the things in the house on a computer.
p. Keep a pocket diary and pen to jot down important matters.
q. Keep a list of important telephone numbers at all times.
r. Be responsible to maintain the telephone diary of the household.
s. Prepare a photo album of all the family members of the house. Write brief notes behind each photograph.
t. Maintain the library of the house by properly naming and numbering the books.
u. If someone borrows an important item from the house, make a written note of it and erase the note once the item is returned.
v. Habitually attend public speaking and other personality development courses.
w. Take a CD player or Cassette player on family trips. Make sure to have a good collection of music, stories, jokes, general knowledge and interesting as well as inspiring lectures. Also, carry along books or novels that have strong positive message. This will make learning fun and personality development easy.
Skills and Values of a 17 yr. old
a. Fill up college admission form and attach necessary documents
b. Know to deposit check, withdraw money from bank and do money order
c. Know to respond to letters
d. Drive two-wheeler responsibly and know to perform maintenance.
e. Buy tickets for train or air travel.
f. Know to pain walls.
g. Recognize quality of grains, fruits and vegetables.
h. Know which clothes to get stitched and how much cloth will be required for it.
i. Know to measure any item in appropriate units.
j. Be able to measure dimensions of land. Keep measure tapes etc handy.
k. Able to do basic plumbing activities at home.
l. Be a good listener. Respond to questions in a measured way.
m. Be friendly with relatives and neighbours.
n. Iron one’s clothes.
o. Be able to support oneself financially by doing some work during vacation time.
b. Know to deposit check, withdraw money from bank and do money order
c. Know to respond to letters
d. Drive two-wheeler responsibly and know to perform maintenance.
e. Buy tickets for train or air travel.
f. Know to pain walls.
g. Recognize quality of grains, fruits and vegetables.
h. Know which clothes to get stitched and how much cloth will be required for it.
i. Know to measure any item in appropriate units.
j. Be able to measure dimensions of land. Keep measure tapes etc handy.
k. Able to do basic plumbing activities at home.
l. Be a good listener. Respond to questions in a measured way.
m. Be friendly with relatives and neighbours.
n. Iron one’s clothes.
o. Be able to support oneself financially by doing some work during vacation time.
Friday, March 12, 2010
Skills and Values of a 14- 16 yr old
1. Wake up and sleep in a timely manner. Make sure to get adequate sleep.
2. Organize schedule in such a way that studies are completed in a timely manner and there is plenty of time for revision. Start studying from the first day of the semester.
3. Continue to spend at least some time in sports and other extracurricular activities
4. Organize schedule independently so as to build self confidence. Parents will need to be supportive of the schedule.
5. Know how to use repair tools like wrench, hammer, screw driver etc.
6. Change electrical fuse.
7. Be aware of one’s strengths, interests and decide what he/ she would like to be in future.
8. Write checks, draw drafts, parcel items, do registered mail, make a railway reservation etc.
9. Know what fruits and vegetables are available during what time of the year.
10. Complete each task in right order.
11. Know to do pull ups, push ups, sun salutations etc.
12.Wash clothes. Be careful with silk and woolen clothes.
13. Give food or other necessary items to saints.
14. Take care of elderly when they are sick.
15. Learn to live with changing times. Do not insult the elders by calling them “Old Timers”
16. Know where to get additional information regarding any subject matter and relay that information to elders.
17. Learn to use mobile phone, pen drive, digital camera, DVD player etc and also teach the elders how to use them.
18. Make a habit to write how you spend your day.
19. Make a note of new places visited or new people with whom he/ she met.
20. Keep in touch with friends and relatives who live out of town via letters.
21.Talk politely, courteously and succinctly on the phone. Don’t waste time talking purposelessly.
22. Keep the elders in loop about the type of discussions going on with friends.
23. Learn to make decisions, but discuss with elders for it’s appropriateness.
24. Save oneself and his/ friends from vices.
25. Keep family members informed on the developments in the neighbourhood.
26. Be helpful to family members during times of festivals.
27. Learn to take care of plants in and around the house.
28. Participate in the activities happening in the neighbourhood.
29. Know the history and geography of the town he/ she lives in. Be aware of the sight seeing places in the town.
30. Experiments done in the school, if not too risky, should be done at home in presence of elders.
31. Be aware of expiry date of medications at home and discard them one expired.
2. Organize schedule in such a way that studies are completed in a timely manner and there is plenty of time for revision. Start studying from the first day of the semester.
3. Continue to spend at least some time in sports and other extracurricular activities
4. Organize schedule independently so as to build self confidence. Parents will need to be supportive of the schedule.
5. Know how to use repair tools like wrench, hammer, screw driver etc.
6. Change electrical fuse.
7. Be aware of one’s strengths, interests and decide what he/ she would like to be in future.
8. Write checks, draw drafts, parcel items, do registered mail, make a railway reservation etc.
9. Know what fruits and vegetables are available during what time of the year.
10. Complete each task in right order.
11. Know to do pull ups, push ups, sun salutations etc.
12.Wash clothes. Be careful with silk and woolen clothes.
13. Give food or other necessary items to saints.
14. Take care of elderly when they are sick.
15. Learn to live with changing times. Do not insult the elders by calling them “Old Timers”
16. Know where to get additional information regarding any subject matter and relay that information to elders.
17. Learn to use mobile phone, pen drive, digital camera, DVD player etc and also teach the elders how to use them.
18. Make a habit to write how you spend your day.
19. Make a note of new places visited or new people with whom he/ she met.
20. Keep in touch with friends and relatives who live out of town via letters.
21.Talk politely, courteously and succinctly on the phone. Don’t waste time talking purposelessly.
22. Keep the elders in loop about the type of discussions going on with friends.
23. Learn to make decisions, but discuss with elders for it’s appropriateness.
24. Save oneself and his/ friends from vices.
25. Keep family members informed on the developments in the neighbourhood.
26. Be helpful to family members during times of festivals.
27. Learn to take care of plants in and around the house.
28. Participate in the activities happening in the neighbourhood.
29. Know the history and geography of the town he/ she lives in. Be aware of the sight seeing places in the town.
30. Experiments done in the school, if not too risky, should be done at home in presence of elders.
31. Be aware of expiry date of medications at home and discard them one expired.
Building further independence- Age 13
a. Know how to use the computer and surf the web.
b. Do not waste time on chat rooms.
c. Learn to write address on the envelope prior to mailing.
d. Should be able to introduce oneself appropriately.
e. Be able to raise plants at home.
f. Fold clothes properly.
g. Change electrical bulbs.
h. Cut and peel fruits and vegetables.
i. Keep written account of expenses.
j. Make a notebook from loose paper.
k. Know swimming and climbing on a tree with rope.
l. Describe symptoms appropriate to the doctor when sick.
m. Measure temperature.
n. Know some basic home remedies for common ailments like cough, sore throat.
o. Digest success and failure.
p. Comb hair, oil hair as often as needed.
q. Carefully maintain the telephone directory.
b. Do not waste time on chat rooms.
c. Learn to write address on the envelope prior to mailing.
d. Should be able to introduce oneself appropriately.
e. Be able to raise plants at home.
f. Fold clothes properly.
g. Change electrical bulbs.
h. Cut and peel fruits and vegetables.
i. Keep written account of expenses.
j. Make a notebook from loose paper.
k. Know swimming and climbing on a tree with rope.
l. Describe symptoms appropriate to the doctor when sick.
m. Measure temperature.
n. Know some basic home remedies for common ailments like cough, sore throat.
o. Digest success and failure.
p. Comb hair, oil hair as often as needed.
q. Carefully maintain the telephone directory.
Extracurricular Activities and Interests- Age 12
a. Continue to pursue knowledge and skills in subject of interest. Watch relevant programs on TV that would enhance knowledge in this subject.
b.Learn to enjoy reading for enhancing knowledge.
c. Know of websites that would provide knowledge on the subject matter.
d. Adopt the motto of “Simple living and high thinking”
b.Learn to enjoy reading for enhancing knowledge.
c. Know of websites that would provide knowledge on the subject matter.
d. Adopt the motto of “Simple living and high thinking”
Care and Independence with Study- Age 12
a. Read newspaper pertaining to matters such as politics, international affairs etc. Understand politics in context of the Civics subject taught at school. Understand international affairs in context of it’s history and geography.
b. On reading negative or disappointing news articles, seek guidance from parents as to how he/ she can avoid getting in that situation.
c. Give his/ her books to the friends of junior class after passing final exams. Similarly try to obtain books from seniors for himself or herself.
d. Read books that develop positive thinking and approach to life.
e. Learn what vitamins and minerals are obtained from what fruits and vegetables.
b. On reading negative or disappointing news articles, seek guidance from parents as to how he/ she can avoid getting in that situation.
c. Give his/ her books to the friends of junior class after passing final exams. Similarly try to obtain books from seniors for himself or herself.
d. Read books that develop positive thinking and approach to life.
e. Learn what vitamins and minerals are obtained from what fruits and vegetables.
Care and Independence Executing Routine Activities - Age 12
a. Make tea, coffee, flavoured milk etc independently.
b. Go on the bicycle for minor errands.
c. Keep the drawing room/ living room neat and tidy.
b. Go on the bicycle for minor errands.
c. Keep the drawing room/ living room neat and tidy.
Care during shopping for food items- Age 11
a. Be able to buy fruits and vegetables independently. Keep a record of expenses.
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Care and Independence on the Playground & Extracurricular activities- Age 11
a. Pursue extracurricular interests with diligence and passion. Enroll in classes to get adequate knowledge on these activities.
b. Participate in public events. Get on the stage to get rid of public speaking fear.
c. Avoid insisting on activities that wouldn’t too helpful in the long run.
d. Learn swimming, traffic rules and regulations as well as first aid to help one self as well as others.
b. Participate in public events. Get on the stage to get rid of public speaking fear.
c. Avoid insisting on activities that wouldn’t too helpful in the long run.
d. Learn swimming, traffic rules and regulations as well as first aid to help one self as well as others.
Care in seeking new knowledge and information- Age 11
a. Read books, magazines etc besides what is taught in school and memorize this new information.
b. Glance through the newspaper everyday. Read interesting and inspiring articles from the weekend special editions. Obtain guidance from elders and teachers in choosing these articles.
b. Glance through the newspaper everyday. Read interesting and inspiring articles from the weekend special editions. Obtain guidance from elders and teachers in choosing these articles.
Care and Independence in the Bathroom- Age 11
a. Clean the shower, basin, commode etc once a week under the supervision of an adult.
Care and Independence Executing Routine Activities - Age 11
a. Be able to set the dining table, fill his/ her plate with adequate amount of food and rinse the plates with water after meals.
b. Clean the table of any spills that might have occurred during meals. Avoid spilling.
c. After taking snacks, ensure that the lid is closed tight and the bottle is returned to its original place.
d. Know to fold clothes and also iron press his/ her clothes.
e. Know to polish shoes.
f. Be able to go to school on bicycle with confidence.
g. Be able to insert a nail in the wall, furniture or shoes, using a hammer.
h. If the clothes stop fitting right because they are getting shorter, identify who would be able use his/ her clothes.
i. Be able to take logical decisions.
b. Clean the table of any spills that might have occurred during meals. Avoid spilling.
c. After taking snacks, ensure that the lid is closed tight and the bottle is returned to its original place.
d. Know to fold clothes and also iron press his/ her clothes.
e. Know to polish shoes.
f. Be able to go to school on bicycle with confidence.
g. Be able to insert a nail in the wall, furniture or shoes, using a hammer.
h. If the clothes stop fitting right because they are getting shorter, identify who would be able use his/ her clothes.
i. Be able to take logical decisions.
Enthusiasm in learning new things at home- Age 10
a. Learn to heat up the food before eating it.
b. Help adults in preparing the bed (e.g. spreading the bed-sheet etc)
c. Drop off clothes at the Laundromat
d. Be able to take care of younger brothers and/ or sisters
b. Help adults in preparing the bed (e.g. spreading the bed-sheet etc)
c. Drop off clothes at the Laundromat
d. Be able to take care of younger brothers and/ or sisters
Care in being courteous to guests- Age 10
a. Be helpful to family members in taking care of guests.
b. If there is a child with the guests, be willing to share games with him/ her.
c. If the child with the guests asks for something, be generous in giving it after asking the parents.
d. Learn to offer snacks, tea, coffee etc to guests.
e. Put the glasses back at the right place after the guests have had water.
b. If there is a child with the guests, be willing to share games with him/ her.
c. If the child with the guests asks for something, be generous in giving it after asking the parents.
d. Learn to offer snacks, tea, coffee etc to guests.
e. Put the glasses back at the right place after the guests have had water.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Care and Independence during Shopping - Age 10
a. Learn shopping for one-self after discussing and getting adequate guidance from the elders. This will help in building self-confidence.
b. Know where to buy the items from and what would be its approximate cost.
c. Follow the advise of the elders.
d. Shop according to the financial situation of the family.
b. Know where to buy the items from and what would be its approximate cost.
c. Follow the advise of the elders.
d. Shop according to the financial situation of the family.
Care and Independence on the Playground - Age 10
a. Understand that games are not just about winning or losing. Understand the purpose of the games and learn to enjoy them regardless of the outcome.
b. Play with Sportsmanship
c. Do not make fun of the losing team or individual. Do not brag on winning.
b. Play with Sportsmanship
c. Do not make fun of the losing team or individual. Do not brag on winning.
Care and Independence at school - Age 10
a. Avoid cramming or memorizing without understanding the basic concepts.
b. Be aware of one’s likings for extra-curricular activities, be it outdoor or indoor. Try to learn more about the activities that he/ she likes. Start to build a foundation to master those skills in future.
d. Enjoy reading age appropriate books, novels, magazines etc.
e. Be attentive in class. Try to listen more and talk only when necessary.
f. Follow teacher’s instructions.
g. Do not be disruptive when class is in session. Avoid playing pranks or making jokes with friends during class.
h. Be selective in choosing friends. Keep company of good friends. At appropriate occasions, introduce friends to parents.
i. After final exams, create a rough book from un-used pages of all the books. Be kind in giving books to other kids who need them.
j. Make friends with senior kids who are bright. Request them to let you use their material after their final exams. Try to get necessary guidance from them as needed.
k. Contribute self-composed articles/ notes/ poems etc to the school notice board.
l. Be a member of the school library and become it’s regular visitor.
m. Be careful in using the school bag, pen, pencils etc so that they can be used the following year as well.
b. Be aware of one’s likings for extra-curricular activities, be it outdoor or indoor. Try to learn more about the activities that he/ she likes. Start to build a foundation to master those skills in future.
d. Enjoy reading age appropriate books, novels, magazines etc.
e. Be attentive in class. Try to listen more and talk only when necessary.
f. Follow teacher’s instructions.
g. Do not be disruptive when class is in session. Avoid playing pranks or making jokes with friends during class.
h. Be selective in choosing friends. Keep company of good friends. At appropriate occasions, introduce friends to parents.
i. After final exams, create a rough book from un-used pages of all the books. Be kind in giving books to other kids who need them.
j. Make friends with senior kids who are bright. Request them to let you use their material after their final exams. Try to get necessary guidance from them as needed.
k. Contribute self-composed articles/ notes/ poems etc to the school notice board.
l. Be a member of the school library and become it’s regular visitor.
m. Be careful in using the school bag, pen, pencils etc so that they can be used the following year as well.
Care and Independence during meals - Age 10
a. Take only as much food or sweets that can be consumed. Avoid wasting food.
b. Learn how to make coffee, tea, flavoured milk etc.
c. Help parents in cleaning up after meals (cleaning the table, putting the utensils at the sink for wash etc)
b. Learn how to make coffee, tea, flavoured milk etc.
c. Help parents in cleaning up after meals (cleaning the table, putting the utensils at the sink for wash etc)
Care and Independence in the Bathroom- Age 10
a. After bath, put everything back in its place (soap, shampoo etc). Make effort to clean the bathroom after use by mopping the floor, wash-basin etc.
b. Minimize wastage of water.
b. Minimize wastage of water.
Care and Independence Executing Routine Activities - Age 10
a. Organize bed (fold the blanket, tidy the bed-sheet) on waking up in the morning.
b. After shower, get ready with appropriate dressing.
c. Should be able to read a map.
d. Be able to buy stamps, postcards etc from a post office. Know how to make a money order.
e. Should be able to write letters.
f. Be able to cross the road carefully and without help.
g. Know at least basic first aid measures to help someone who has had an accident.
h. Cleans bicycle. Is knowledgeable about various parts of a bicycle.
i. Keeps house clean. Does not throw trash anywhere except in the trash-can.
b. After shower, get ready with appropriate dressing.
c. Should be able to read a map.
d. Be able to buy stamps, postcards etc from a post office. Know how to make a money order.
e. Should be able to write letters.
f. Be able to cross the road carefully and without help.
g. Know at least basic first aid measures to help someone who has had an accident.
h. Cleans bicycle. Is knowledgeable about various parts of a bicycle.
i. Keeps house clean. Does not throw trash anywhere except in the trash-can.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Care while going to Bed at night- Age 9
a. Sleeping regularly between 9pm and 10pm
b. Washing hands and brushing teeth before going to bed
c. Wish “Good night”, “Jai Jinendra” etc to everyone.
d. Saying prayers with utmost sincerity and faith.
e. Not to watch TV at bedtime.
f. If the hair is oily, making sure to cover the pillows with a napkin or other protective cover.
b. Washing hands and brushing teeth before going to bed
c. Wish “Good night”, “Jai Jinendra” etc to everyone.
d. Saying prayers with utmost sincerity and faith.
e. Not to watch TV at bedtime.
f. If the hair is oily, making sure to cover the pillows with a napkin or other protective cover.
Care in displaying a Humble and Respectful Behaviour- Age 9
a. Wishing “Good Morning”, “Jai Jinendra”, “Jai Sri Krishna” etc to everone on waking up in the morning
b. Bowing and greeting guests with respect. Not hesitating in touching their feet and seeking blessings.
c. Sitting with guests and having a pleasant conversation. Responding to their questions with confidence. Being accommodating during their stay.
d. When guests leave, providing a warm send off. Firmly, but politely, declining to accept any money from them.
e. Being sincerely appreciative of other’s hard-work and good deeds.
b. Bowing and greeting guests with respect. Not hesitating in touching their feet and seeking blessings.
c. Sitting with guests and having a pleasant conversation. Responding to their questions with confidence. Being accommodating during their stay.
d. When guests leave, providing a warm send off. Firmly, but politely, declining to accept any money from them.
e. Being sincerely appreciative of other’s hard-work and good deeds.
Care and Independence with cleaning and organization - Age 9
a. Learn to help with minor cleaning around the house like dusting, mopping etc.
b. Learn to clean utensils using soap and water.
c. Learn how to remove stains from one’s clothes, using soap or detergent.
d. Should know what items of the house belong at what place and ensure that they are returned back to their place after use. For example, return the phone back on it’s stand, newspaper at it’s appropriate place etc.
e. Should learn to clean their own bicycle and also learn to clean other vehicles of the household.
b. Learn to clean utensils using soap and water.
c. Learn how to remove stains from one’s clothes, using soap or detergent.
d. Should know what items of the house belong at what place and ensure that they are returned back to their place after use. For example, return the phone back on it’s stand, newspaper at it’s appropriate place etc.
e. Should learn to clean their own bicycle and also learn to clean other vehicles of the household.
Care and Independence during Shopping - Age 9
a. Learn to make a list of truly essential items before going for shopping.
b. Refrain from insisting to buy things that are not truly necessary.
c. Go for shopping with parents or other elderly family members. Learn how decisions are made while shopping for any item.
d. Review items after shopping and learn to review the bill corresponding with each item.
b. Refrain from insisting to buy things that are not truly necessary.
c. Go for shopping with parents or other elderly family members. Learn how decisions are made while shopping for any item.
d. Review items after shopping and learn to review the bill corresponding with each item.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Care and Independence on the Playground - Age 9
a. Play with a team spirit and sportsmanship. Do not engage in embarrassing behaviour, violence or indiscipline
b. At the end of play, clean up the play area and put the play items (bat, ball, racquet etc) back in their places.
c. Learn various forms of exercises including Yogasan
d. Learn Physical education.
e. Be respectful to the coach.
b. At the end of play, clean up the play area and put the play items (bat, ball, racquet etc) back in their places.
c. Learn various forms of exercises including Yogasan
d. Learn Physical education.
e. Be respectful to the coach.
Care and Independence at school - Age 9
a. Show respect to the teacher when he/ she arrives or leaves the classroom
b. Be attentive when class is in session.
c. Learn to participate with enthusiasm in all the activities offered at the school
d. Put the books back in the school bag after each class.
e. Know how to sharpen a pencil. Be sure to clean the dirt created while sharpening a pencil
f. Should be familiar with the transportation system to the school and back home.
g. Once home, must know to put the school bag as well as school uniform at their appropriate places.
b. Be attentive when class is in session.
c. Learn to participate with enthusiasm in all the activities offered at the school
d. Put the books back in the school bag after each class.
e. Know how to sharpen a pencil. Be sure to clean the dirt created while sharpening a pencil
f. Should be familiar with the transportation system to the school and back home.
g. Once home, must know to put the school bag as well as school uniform at their appropriate places.
Care and Independence during meals - Age 9
a. Meals must be had at a designated place only. Avoid eating while roaming around.
b. Take only as much food as needed to avoid wastage.
c. Should take water by himself or herself and only as much as needed.
d. Eat in accordance to one’s own family and religious values.
e. Avoid any distractions like watching television, talking to someone on telephone, reading books or magazines etc while having meals.
f. Exercise caution so as to avoid any spillage around plates while eating. If there is a spill, the child should make sure to do the clean-up himself or herself.
g. Must put the dirty utensils back near the kitchen sink (basin) or other designated area for cleaning.
h. When eating out at a hotel or restaurant, do not be insistent upon having a particular thing.
i. Avoid junk food and encourage others to do the same.
j. Pray before meals and think good things while eating.
k. Do not talk with food in mouth. Do not chew with an open mouth.
l. Develop to enjoy all types of foods, in accordance with the family and religious beliefs.
m. Learn how to eat using knife and fork
b. Take only as much food as needed to avoid wastage.
c. Should take water by himself or herself and only as much as needed.
d. Eat in accordance to one’s own family and religious values.
e. Avoid any distractions like watching television, talking to someone on telephone, reading books or magazines etc while having meals.
f. Exercise caution so as to avoid any spillage around plates while eating. If there is a spill, the child should make sure to do the clean-up himself or herself.
g. Must put the dirty utensils back near the kitchen sink (basin) or other designated area for cleaning.
h. When eating out at a hotel or restaurant, do not be insistent upon having a particular thing.
i. Avoid junk food and encourage others to do the same.
j. Pray before meals and think good things while eating.
k. Do not talk with food in mouth. Do not chew with an open mouth.
l. Develop to enjoy all types of foods, in accordance with the family and religious beliefs.
m. Learn how to eat using knife and fork
Care and Independence in the Bathroom- Age 9
a. Put toothbrush, paste etc back in its place after use
b. After bath, put the soap back in soap case at the place where it does not continue to get wet.
c. If necessary things are missing or are running low in the bathroom, must know where to get them from and be able to refill them.
d. Give dirty clothes for wash and hang the towel to dry.
b. After bath, put the soap back in soap case at the place where it does not continue to get wet.
c. If necessary things are missing or are running low in the bathroom, must know where to get them from and be able to refill them.
d. Give dirty clothes for wash and hang the towel to dry.
Care and Independence Executing Routine Activities - Age 9
a. Brushing teeth, taking bath and getting ready for school
b. Have a strong conviction that today I will engage my mind in thinking positive and spend my day doing good deeds.
c. Organize the school bag with books, lunch box and water bottle. Books must be arranged in order of class timetable.
d. Ensure timely completion of homework with due diligence.
e. Ensure that parents have reviewed the homework.
f. Learn to ride a bicycle. Must be able to at least go to the end of society where he/ she resides to carry out basic chores (e.g. dropping off clothes at the Laundromat etc)
g. Learn how to take good care of books. Learn how to put protective cover on the books.
h. Know how to dial a phone. If someone calls, must learn to take the message and jot down the call back number. Must know the mobile number of his parents or close relatives. Should learn to keep a small pocket diary of relevant telephone numbers
i. Know how to change the cell of small electronic items around the house, like watch etc.
j. Learn to enjoy the colours of dusk and dawn. Should be able to enjoy the beauty of nature, be it the chirping of birds or meowing of the cats!
k. Learn how to use gum/ fevicol to fix minor tears.
l. Know how to make small paper packets
m. Know how to clear the house and verandah using a broom-stick or a vacuum cleaner.
n. Be ever-ready to do follow instructions given by the elderly person(s) of the house.
o. Learn not to throw a temper tantrum if he/ she does not get the food items or toys as desired.
p. Develop an independent taste/ preference of the colour of clothes.
q. Must stay away from strangers, especially when he or she is alone. Do not get tempted to take any items from strangers (food, toys, clothes etc)
b. Have a strong conviction that today I will engage my mind in thinking positive and spend my day doing good deeds.
c. Organize the school bag with books, lunch box and water bottle. Books must be arranged in order of class timetable.
d. Ensure timely completion of homework with due diligence.
e. Ensure that parents have reviewed the homework.
f. Learn to ride a bicycle. Must be able to at least go to the end of society where he/ she resides to carry out basic chores (e.g. dropping off clothes at the Laundromat etc)
g. Learn how to take good care of books. Learn how to put protective cover on the books.
h. Know how to dial a phone. If someone calls, must learn to take the message and jot down the call back number. Must know the mobile number of his parents or close relatives. Should learn to keep a small pocket diary of relevant telephone numbers
i. Know how to change the cell of small electronic items around the house, like watch etc.
j. Learn to enjoy the colours of dusk and dawn. Should be able to enjoy the beauty of nature, be it the chirping of birds or meowing of the cats!
k. Learn how to use gum/ fevicol to fix minor tears.
l. Know how to make small paper packets
m. Know how to clear the house and verandah using a broom-stick or a vacuum cleaner.
n. Be ever-ready to do follow instructions given by the elderly person(s) of the house.
o. Learn not to throw a temper tantrum if he/ she does not get the food items or toys as desired.
p. Develop an independent taste/ preference of the colour of clothes.
q. Must stay away from strangers, especially when he or she is alone. Do not get tempted to take any items from strangers (food, toys, clothes etc)
Aadarsh Amdavad Mission
In today’s world, kids have multiple avenues to develop intellectually and morally. School, coaching classes and personal tuitions are a few examples of the avenues that undertake the responsibility of this development. As the child grows, parents diligently attend to his or her physical and mental health, intellectual growth, entertainment demands, general knowledge as well as all other worldly conveniences that are deemed essential. At the end of all this perseverance, when the kid clears 12th grade at age 18, the society is presented with a “final product”.
A lot of introspection has gone in to refining this “final product”. For example, what level of intelligence, understanding and maturity should a kid, using powerful tools like computer or cell-phone, have? What can we expect in terms of cultural and moral values from a kid who has watched and learnt from television and Internet, right from infancy? After putting in a lot of thought to this matter, the same questions were posed to parents. Each parent was assigned the task to create a list of things that they, as parents, need to do, so as to impart these intellectual and moral values to the children, in their own homes. Several enthusiastic parents agreed to partake in this activity and started to submit written suggestions for the intellectual and moral betterment of our children. After 3 months of rigorous efforts from about 25 affectionate, thoughtful and highly experienced parents, we are presenting you with this booklet.
Lets make home, a “Gurukul”, an educational institution. A detailed list has been compiled of what all should we teach a child by the time he/ she turns 9. The objective should be that by the time the child is 9, he/ she must be proficient in performing all the items on this list, independently. The child should have these things firmly embedded within himself or herself. At the same time, we need to mindful of the fact that every child is different and is blessed with unique strengths. Parents should be acutely aware of the “uniqueness” of their child and raise them with lot of love and affection. That’s where parents will need to demonstrate their understanding and maturity. Do not subject your child to comparison or competition! Parents, who diligently involve themselves in educating their children while also being sensitive, will experience a huge improvement in their children’s present and eventually their future.
A home that is focused on character development is full of joy, excitement and lively interactions. Love and affection always seem to be in air. Free times are filled with discussions and brain storming sessions and kids are active participants in everything happening in and around the house. Home feels “homely” and everyone works like a team in-synchrony. Everyone, from kids to grandpa and grandma, are learning and teaching, understanding and explaining, developing and helping develop, blossoming and helping others blossom! The home is filled with happiness, love, peace, inspiration, warmth, cooperation, enthusiasm, endurance, strength and divinity. It’s this experience of a family pulsating with vibrant life that makes a house a “home”. Every member of the family, regardless of where he/ she is during the day, feels the warmth, love and comfort of his home. Come evening, he feels nostalgic and wants to be back at home. Home should be an experiment laboratory of life where character is developed. New experiments, new discoveries, new inventions! The joy of life! The excitement of life! The enthusiasm of life! Healthy individual, healthy family, healthy home resulting in a healthy society. We can make this happen. We are independent and capable of doing this. We have to do this. We have to do this for our-self. Only we can do this!
The child development journey that began at birth provides identifiable milestones that need to be achieved by age 9, before carrying on further. It is possible that some parents might join late in this journey. That’s not a reason to worry. It is never too late. The objective is an all around personality as well as moral development. Be affectionate and patient.
We have also provided an approximate map of what a child should become proficient in, year by year after age 9. There is no reason to worry or become impatient if this journey runs into hurdles. Whatever time is lost should be gradually made-up, by the time the child turns 18. Remember that every child is different, his/ her understanding and intelligence as well as interest and aptitude is different. If there are things that he/ she does not like or does not want to learn at that particular time, do not get upset or angry. Give them time. Be patient. Stay self-confident and develop that in the child.
Remember that children learn by osmosis. It’s not what the parents say and teach, but what they do and how they live, which leaves a lasting impact on the children. The parents will first need to develop the values, character and personality within themselves, before being able to impart them to the children.
Every home will need to develop in to a “Gurukul” in order create awareness and develop the entire society. Parents will need to re-adjust their priorities and make some sacrifices. They will need to spend more time with their children and spend less time being career-oriented and financially driven. Instead of delegating these responsibilities to schools and tuition classes, parents will need to be active participants with these institutions to help children achieve the outlined objectives.
Before making kids morally sound, parents will need to be so. Before kids can develop their personalities, parents will need to have a role model personality. Before kids can develop integrity of their character, parents will need to show that they have it within themselves. A diligent and righteous efforts must be put in. As it is said “If everyone keeps their porch clean, the world will be clean”. Similarly, if every parent educates their child as outlined in this booklet, we will have an entire generation that is intellectually as well as morally fit and resilient. Let us all begin working on this right away.
Let us read this literature and put the knowledge to work. Let us all parents get more involved in raising our children by being attentive to the suggestions outlined here. Let us all play a responsible role in the growth and development of our children. Let us all face the challenges confronted to us by the 21st century with strength and character. Investing in our children’s present is an investment in our own future!
Let us all as residents of Amdavad understand, acknowledge and accept these principles. This would be one of the several important endeavours towards the goal of making our city “Aadarsh Amdavad”. By 2012, this message should resonate with every single of the 12 lakh households of Amdavad. To realize this dream, our organization “Aadarsh Amdavad” is respectfully requesting encouraging words, pious blessings and generous cooperation from the citizenry of Amdavad.
Convener- Shri Bharatbhai J. Shah.
A lot of introspection has gone in to refining this “final product”. For example, what level of intelligence, understanding and maturity should a kid, using powerful tools like computer or cell-phone, have? What can we expect in terms of cultural and moral values from a kid who has watched and learnt from television and Internet, right from infancy? After putting in a lot of thought to this matter, the same questions were posed to parents. Each parent was assigned the task to create a list of things that they, as parents, need to do, so as to impart these intellectual and moral values to the children, in their own homes. Several enthusiastic parents agreed to partake in this activity and started to submit written suggestions for the intellectual and moral betterment of our children. After 3 months of rigorous efforts from about 25 affectionate, thoughtful and highly experienced parents, we are presenting you with this booklet.
Lets make home, a “Gurukul”, an educational institution. A detailed list has been compiled of what all should we teach a child by the time he/ she turns 9. The objective should be that by the time the child is 9, he/ she must be proficient in performing all the items on this list, independently. The child should have these things firmly embedded within himself or herself. At the same time, we need to mindful of the fact that every child is different and is blessed with unique strengths. Parents should be acutely aware of the “uniqueness” of their child and raise them with lot of love and affection. That’s where parents will need to demonstrate their understanding and maturity. Do not subject your child to comparison or competition! Parents, who diligently involve themselves in educating their children while also being sensitive, will experience a huge improvement in their children’s present and eventually their future.
A home that is focused on character development is full of joy, excitement and lively interactions. Love and affection always seem to be in air. Free times are filled with discussions and brain storming sessions and kids are active participants in everything happening in and around the house. Home feels “homely” and everyone works like a team in-synchrony. Everyone, from kids to grandpa and grandma, are learning and teaching, understanding and explaining, developing and helping develop, blossoming and helping others blossom! The home is filled with happiness, love, peace, inspiration, warmth, cooperation, enthusiasm, endurance, strength and divinity. It’s this experience of a family pulsating with vibrant life that makes a house a “home”. Every member of the family, regardless of where he/ she is during the day, feels the warmth, love and comfort of his home. Come evening, he feels nostalgic and wants to be back at home. Home should be an experiment laboratory of life where character is developed. New experiments, new discoveries, new inventions! The joy of life! The excitement of life! The enthusiasm of life! Healthy individual, healthy family, healthy home resulting in a healthy society. We can make this happen. We are independent and capable of doing this. We have to do this. We have to do this for our-self. Only we can do this!
The child development journey that began at birth provides identifiable milestones that need to be achieved by age 9, before carrying on further. It is possible that some parents might join late in this journey. That’s not a reason to worry. It is never too late. The objective is an all around personality as well as moral development. Be affectionate and patient.
We have also provided an approximate map of what a child should become proficient in, year by year after age 9. There is no reason to worry or become impatient if this journey runs into hurdles. Whatever time is lost should be gradually made-up, by the time the child turns 18. Remember that every child is different, his/ her understanding and intelligence as well as interest and aptitude is different. If there are things that he/ she does not like or does not want to learn at that particular time, do not get upset or angry. Give them time. Be patient. Stay self-confident and develop that in the child.
Remember that children learn by osmosis. It’s not what the parents say and teach, but what they do and how they live, which leaves a lasting impact on the children. The parents will first need to develop the values, character and personality within themselves, before being able to impart them to the children.
Every home will need to develop in to a “Gurukul” in order create awareness and develop the entire society. Parents will need to re-adjust their priorities and make some sacrifices. They will need to spend more time with their children and spend less time being career-oriented and financially driven. Instead of delegating these responsibilities to schools and tuition classes, parents will need to be active participants with these institutions to help children achieve the outlined objectives.
Before making kids morally sound, parents will need to be so. Before kids can develop their personalities, parents will need to have a role model personality. Before kids can develop integrity of their character, parents will need to show that they have it within themselves. A diligent and righteous efforts must be put in. As it is said “If everyone keeps their porch clean, the world will be clean”. Similarly, if every parent educates their child as outlined in this booklet, we will have an entire generation that is intellectually as well as morally fit and resilient. Let us all begin working on this right away.
Let us read this literature and put the knowledge to work. Let us all parents get more involved in raising our children by being attentive to the suggestions outlined here. Let us all play a responsible role in the growth and development of our children. Let us all face the challenges confronted to us by the 21st century with strength and character. Investing in our children’s present is an investment in our own future!
Let us all as residents of Amdavad understand, acknowledge and accept these principles. This would be one of the several important endeavours towards the goal of making our city “Aadarsh Amdavad”. By 2012, this message should resonate with every single of the 12 lakh households of Amdavad. To realize this dream, our organization “Aadarsh Amdavad” is respectfully requesting encouraging words, pious blessings and generous cooperation from the citizenry of Amdavad.
Convener- Shri Bharatbhai J. Shah.
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